Why women date other marrieds?
Speak about a loaded issue that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Amusing thing, married dating have been going on since old ages. Extramarital relationships can be burdened with troubles, cause sadness, and other troubles. Plus you should wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety thing, money, age dissimilarity, spiritual upbringing, shame, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I shall classify an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, date married woman.
Why do married people have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are people seeking affairs. I think mostly though it is only the human state, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
Biologically we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and exciting, and sex makes us get away the real world for a brief period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Someone are able to switch the desire on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another human being, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos humanity has erected against extra-marital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will overcome their worries and make them risk the rage of not only their relatives, but society too. So why, what is the means?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is awfully good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not wound your spouse or anybody else? You will need to lessen the threat you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the biggest group, gigantic truly. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, apart from they feel comfortable in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the children to consider. Your savings are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live together besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them completing the sex act, at least not with their spouse. An affair occasionally solves the problem while keeping the marriage intact.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a regular cause I fear. One or the other, as a rule the guy is sexually neglecting his female for a large humber of reasons. As a male I really appreciate you guys neglecting your wives and making them available to us guys of romance, making them “hot wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, maybe compassion is gone, maybe it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have simply grown distantly, our general concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is diverce of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they search for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.